This woman had sex every day for a year – this is what she discovered

Still need inspiration for the New Year’s resolution? Well, you could do worse than following in the footsteps of this woman who dedicated a year to having sex every day.

US author Brittany Gibbons, who wrote Fat Girl Walking, has struggled with loving her body since having her third child.

Anyone who has been in a long-term relationship knows that when it comes to sex, sometimes those regular bedroom sessions can fall by the wayside in favour of chores, work and kids but Gibbons set time to have sex with her husband every night for a whole year — yep, 365 days.

Explaining her insecurities in a piece for Good Housekeeping, she said: I kept the lights off during sex, hid my stomach and boobs inside a camisole, and I waited for my husband to leave the bedroom before barrelling from the shower to my closet to get dressed.
She soon started to worry that her husband didn’t even know what she looked like nude anymore so, she took on the challenge of having sex for 365 days in a row to “force myself into facing my body each day”. Her husband was a willing candidate.

Though it was tough at first, she slowly warmed to it.

So they had sex every day — minus when travel and a bout of the flu keep them apart. Gibbons explained it started off rough — some days she was just too tired and didn’t want to be touched, “but as the months passed, I started looking forward to it.”

Soon she said the loved-up connection of intimacy began showing outside the bedroom. We were more romantic with each other, touching arms as we passed, kissing longer before work and not just the cold familiar peck. Our relationship was stronger and better when our intimacy was flourishing. 

In an article for Huffington Post, she explains:

But then it stopped being a chore, and became the moment of the day where I was most at peace.

Where I could have an actual conversation with my husband and know he was listening to me and not secretly watching television or elbow deep in Lego assembly.

Gibbons learned that communication is key to loving both your body and sex.

Before her experiment, telling her husband about her insecurities had only resulted in him complimenting her but ultimately failing to change her mind.

Having sex every day revealed to Gibbons how to get around this, as she explains in her Huffington Post article.

I needed to explain to him that him seeing me that way is great, but unless I saw it too, it didn’t count.

It took a lot of talking to make him realise that me not feeling sexy was not an attack on him, and him being hurt about it only made me feel worse, she continued.

I wanted to enjoy sex, too. And the key for me being able to enjoy it is feeling confident and gorgeous, and that was a me journey, not a him journey, though having a cheerleader on the sidelines was a plus.

With that confidence came the realization that telling your partner what you want is incredibly important.

I deserve good sex as much as he does, and instead of waiting around for him to figure it out, which is totally unfair to guys by the way, I had to find my voice and use it.